I’ve noticed a trend among some of you and some of my contemporaries of late. I think that a lot of New Year’s resolutions may be taking hold. I’m hearing from people who want to get together for the first time in years. I’ve read of bloggers who are following their passions and hope to be able to make a living from them (I’m one. But this time it’s the ride that’s the goal. Just doing it.)
So. Here we go. Glance to the side, make sure that you are alone. And read on.
Make a date with yourself for lunch today. Alone. Just you and a notebook and pen. Go somewhere inspiring for lunch. Somewhere out of the ordinary.
Order a split of champagne with your meal. Drink the champagne before proceeding on to the next part.
Answer the following questions:
1) If I could dress in anything I wanted to wear regardless of price, suitability or availability, what would it be?
2) If I could live anywhere in the world where would be? And why?
3) If I could do anything at all without worrying about money, what would I do?
4) I’d really like to know more about………. .
5) In my leisure time I would love to …………. .
The first question is about your style. It may help you define what it is that you should keep in your wardrobe, how you would like to decorate, how you would like the world to see you. Take a small step in that direction immediately. Look for vintage, bespoke, whatever. But wear something you think is perfect for the perfect you tomorrow. For me it is a bespoke wardrobe with all the elegance of the 1930’s. This year I will have a MTM dinner jacket. Next year a suit. Begin to tailor (or edit) your wardrobe and your surroundings to reflect your new world view.
The second question is a loaded one, but it lets you know what you want more of. New York? It’d eat me alive after three weeks. Washington DC? Not again. Well, not without a boatload of cash and a place off Rock Creek Parkway or Glover Park, or in the Kennedy-Warren. St. Raphaël, FR? Been there and glimpsed the good life. What did they all have in common? Something “foreign,” exciting. I can visit each of those places. In the meantime, I look for the exotic, the art-deco’ish, the citified, here in Richmond. It helps to stimulate my senses and keep the wanderlust intact. Travel, even in your mind, is broadening.
The third question is where your passions lie. I answered that question the second time I got cancer. It was one phrase: “quit this nonsense.” People asked me what I would do when I “retired.” I made a list. I don’t have enough time in the day to do everything I want to do. But this blog was one goal. Take a small step towards making whatever it is happen. Want to travel? Check out a course on travel writing or photography. Want to paint? Is there a class nearby? Do some research. You’ll be surprised how much you may be able to accomplish on your current budget, as long as you budget some time and brainpower to the scheme.
“I’d really like to know more about.” I don’t know about you, but I have to scratch my brain once in a while. And that question led me to a bunch of blogs that are helping me with my search for an easy elegance. And to audit an art history course. Which makes me appreciate a whole lot of things. And gives me something new to talk about.
Your leisure time is your own. If you’re like me, you may be putting things on the backburner, while you “knock this other thing out.” That’s a mistake. Your leisure time will refresh your body and mind. I loved taking yoga, even though I had to carve out time to do it. Fifteen to thirty minutes a day of exercise keeps my spirits up and my clothes fitting nicely. Reading and listening to a favorite CD is pure bliss. Although I have to fight the guilty feelings that accompany my indulgence.
If there is one thing that I can tell you with absolute certainty after years working for a living it is this: the in-box was full when you got there. It’ll be full when you leave.
To mix metaphors, make sure your glass is always half full, too. Or to relate the whole thing to my image like a good copywriter should, “what would you do if the world were your oyster?”